THE PULPIT'S DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
If you are a pastor dealing with a porn problem, it's time to clean it up. No more lying, no more deceit, no more manipulation.
Right in front of you is an opportunity to stop living chained to porn. The life you are living now, hiding porn from your family, church, and God, is consumed with worry that you will be found out.
As a pastor you have a huge responsibility to the people around you. Your porn problem is driving those relationships into the ground, not to mention your personal relationship with God.
You will not and cannot be effective in your position if you let your sin go unchecked. Proverbs 13:28 "He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy."
This site is dedicated to helping you find your voice so you can find confession and accountability for your problem. We all fall short of the glory of God and all must clean it up. You especially are required to do so, because of the massive responsibility to those who call you pastor, father, and son. Clean it up today. Tell someone around you now, get help.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW:
• 51% of you say porn is a temptation.
(Christianity Today, Leadership Survey, December 2001).
• 69% of you started looking at porn out of curiosity.
• 37% of you say it's currently a struggle.
• 53% of you have visited porn sites in the past year.
• 18% percent of you look at porn a couple times a month.
• 30% of you do not talk to anyone about your dirty little secret.
• 4 in 10 of you looked at porn today.
• 100% of you need accountability.
The first thing to do is get the monkey off your back. Get face-to-face with God, let Him know you are ready for change and tell another human being. James 5:16 says, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed." Find a friend, pastor, anonymous group, counslor, or leader at church, and open your mouth and get the secret out. Click here to post your confession online.
WORK IT OUT:
James 1:4 "Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." You will have to work this thing out. It might mean you join a local group like Celebrate Recovery or another anonymous group. Nationally there are a number of 12-step programs devoted to sex and pornography addictions and countless other Christian programs. It may mean you check yourself into a rehab or do an online recovery group. You may pray and fall flat in front of God, but you must persevere and not give up your work in recovery.
Galatians 6, "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin; you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." The one thing that will put your porn problem in place will be face-to-face accountability. You must keep your behavior in check with a close friend or accountability partner. This does not mean a random stranger or an anonymous person in cyber space. We are talking about someone within your immediate circle. This person will help you get through the hard times and celebrate the good times. It must be face-to-face and often. Click here to download X3watch.
*Can your spouse be your accountability partner? We suggest discernment when it comes to your spouse. Your problem will carry a lot of pain for your spouse, so tread lightly as you unravel the truth. But you must get accountability.
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